Connecting the disconnected: your life update matters
News is something we really look forward to, especially when it relates to the people we love. It’s not even limited to the closest people, sometimes I am wondering what’s up with friends or my connection who haven’t talked for a long time.
Well, it’s very easy for us to communicate and get connected nowadays, supported by any kind of social platforms. For example, for me, as simple as liking friend’s Instagram stories is a heartwearming experience. If I do that, it simply means I said “Even we haven’t really talk in a long time, I still really care about you, and just to know that we are good. I’m happy about what you are posting, I’m glad that you still exist, please be present and be alive!”
One things I realize in this adulting phase is the older I get, my circle is getting smaller. This is a good thing for me because I only have to focus in maintaining my relationship with a few of people. The low maintenance of friendship is true, in terms of the hang out frequency — because we are all busy adulting and couldn’t be there everytime for each other. But, if you already know a friend who you think has a high value for you you, all of the maintenance time, effort, and cost that we have to spent are not become an expenses anymore. It is a worth investment.
After reading Laut Bercerita by Leila S. Chudori, I realized something that I hadn’t paid much attention before: the importance of updating your conditions and maintaining communication to the people you love. It will be really painful when you might not be able to get connected anymore to someone closest to you.
“Sungguh aku merindukanmu, Mas. Kami semua kangen. Dari alam manapun kau berada, berilah tanda, kode morse atau pesan apa pun agar aku tahu kau tenang dan bahagia.”
What’s worse, when that person decides or gives a closure to not to see you anymore.
“Seandainya belum ada satu pimpinan pun yang menunaikan janjinya untuk mengungkap kasus kematianku dan kematian semua kawan-kawan, maka inilah saranku: kalian semua harus tetap melanjutkan kehidupan dengan keriaan dan kebahagiaan. Sampaikan pula pada Bapak, Ibu, dan Anjani: jangan hidup di masa lalu, di saat aku masih menjadi abangmu yang jahil dan sering membuat dapur Ibu berantakan. Jangan terjebak pada kenangan yang membuat kalian semua tak bisa meneruskan hidup.”
The point is,
We all know that we are busy,
But don’t let this make us lose sight that
on the other side,
When you think that your news is not important for anyone,
Someone is waiting for your news or always trying make sure that you are safe.
“Ketidaktahuan dan ketidakpastian kadang-kadang jauh lebih membunuh daripada pembunuhan.”
So, have you reach out and make sure your closest one is okay?
