Reasons why I keep my circle small.

Growing up as an introvert made me close myself from surroundings, especially from insignificant relationships. At first I felt like I had no friends and didn’t have anyone who cared about me, but over time as I got older and got older I came to understand that maintaining relation with many people drains my energy, especially with self-centered person.

This post does not intend to close yourself off or limit your relationship with anyone, but only as a reminder of why I prefer to keep my circle small and private.

As a human being, whether I like it or not, I am going to go through a time where your circle of friends will get smaller by the year. Having lots of friends are good to expand your network and perspectives, but the fact is: every person in your life is not there to support you. Not everyone in your boat is rolling with you, some might be drilling holes.

For me, there is a difference between coworkers and someone who can be called as a friend. A co-worker is only limited to the person we work with, while that friend is someone we can chat with about certain topics and can know deeper about myself. I think as we grow older, the more work and experiences we do, the more network we get - but not necessarily increasing the number of people who can be called as a friend.

As we get older, we will realize that how small our circle has gotten and you have to realize that that is okay. Whether you are successful or not as of yet, your small circle — the fewer people you’ll have to worry about taking care of.

Some people probably are more comfortable with lot of friends, but I am perfectly enough with the few I have. I am so grateful to the friends I have in my life. If I consider you as one of my really good friends, I will give my trust on you. The smaller my circle of trusted people are, the less energy I used for maintaining them. Sometimes, you don’t know who your real friends are until you are faced with hard times.